The "Why" Factor

At some point in a child’s nascent development, he or she starts asking “Why?” It’s nice to think that it’s because your son or daughter is trying to better understand the issue at hand. But quickly you realize the underlying factor: “Why?” is just the first salvo in the negotiation process.

• “But why do I need to finish my homework now?”

• “Why should I do that? It’s her turn.”

• “Why won’t you let me do that?”

• “Why would you embarrass me like that?”

Of course, when you have teenagers, "Why?" can take on another form. For example, you tell them you're cleaning the bathroom and their response is, "Why?"

Every response, regardless of political disposition, starts sounding like Ronald Reagan: “Well…”